As a mother,
daughter, sister and wife, I believe in the utmost importance of a support
system. A support system that no MATTER
the circumstance, no matter the fight, no matter the problem (that you may have
caused) or no matter the time of day or night—someone is there to listen, to
defend you, to tell you when you are wrong, but to promise to love you and
carry you through. That is what I now
find in my sister and my mother. Have I
always wanted their support, their love or their critiques? NO—NO WAY!! But as
I grow as a person, as an adult – I love to hear their opinions on many subject
matters. Gentry (my older sister), my
Mom and I have an ongoing “group text”.
I know this sounds crazy and immature, but we love it. We have a problem- group text- we have a
question – group text- a concern- group text—and I am sure you get my
gist. It’s a lifeline. Most of the time the responses are instant
and sometimes they are exactly what we do not want to hear, but what we (I)
need to hear. Our relationship over the
past year has blossomed into the most beautiful thing I have ever
experienced. This isn’t to say that I
don’t like to assert my independence and of course want to “show” my support
system that I’ve got this (this happens often and most of the time I am brought
back to reality very quick) —but someday—when I need a different type of
support (from my husband whose support and opinion I value everyday)– I lean on
these “group messages”. Lately the
messages have been about running, babies and faith. Gentry is expecting a baby boy in September
and we talk about the LOVE, joy, fears, birth experience and all that comes
with the glorious GIFT of a child and Finn's most recent adventures and funny stories. These
memories, these talks, these moments where sometimes we get messages that make
us LAUGH out loud – are something that we will absolutely cherish forever. Of course these messages can’t replace a
phone call (I am sure we will experiment with face time and 3- way calls once
baby Gennings arrives) or a face to face visit, but it sure feels good to know
that sending a few words will result in a flood of support and thoughts coming our
way in just a few seconds – and sometimes that is all we need. A lifeline of three people who are all
mothers, daughters, sisters, wives and FRIENDS—who know each other—each other’s
flaws, faults and strengths—and who rely upon each other for support. I hope you have someone- anyone who can
provide you with a “lifeline” if it is just to tell you that your outfit or
your hair style totally kicks butt or that it totally makes your butt look too
big—hehe—because that support is sometimes all that’s needed. Xoxo—Evan
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